我们的社会对传统的忠孝有很多误解,例如,认为“忠孝”仅仅是服从和顺从。在君主社会,许多不义和不合理的事情都以“忠孝”的名义强迫别人顺从或服从,由此引发了很多弊端和问题。虽然“忠孝”是君臣之间以及父母与孩子之间的基本伦理,但是,无条件服从和顺从并不是忠臣或孝子应有的姿态。无条件的顺从不仅在现代的平等社会,即便是在过去的身份等级社会也并不正确,这一点通过荀子的思想可以得到确认。荀子批判了不合理的顺从和服从。顺从和服从的根本在于其对对方是真正有利的还是有害的,这是最重要的判断标准。本文是以荀子思想为中心整理而成的。 Our society has many misconceptions about traditional loyalty and filial piety. For example, “loyalty and filial piety” are merely obedience and obedience. In the monarchy society, many unjust and unreasonable things force others to obey or obey in the name of “loyalty and filial piety.” As a result, many drawbacks and problems have arisen. Although “loyalty and filial piety” are the basic ethics between monarchs and ministers and between parents and children, unconditional obedience and obedience are not the proper gestures of loyal or obedient children. Unconditional obedience is not true not only in a modern, equal society, but also in the social class of the past, as evidenced by Xunzi’s thinking. Xunzi criticized unreasonable obedience and obedience. Obedience and obedience is rooted in whether it is really beneficial or harmful to each other, this is the most important criterion. This article is organized by Xunzi thought.