儿童心理学的角度而言,当孩子提出某种不合理的要求时,家长与其迁就,毋宁说“不行”对他(她)更具有影响力。如今周末无人看管的孩子不知有多少,家长外出,本想把他们放到爷爷奶奶等老人家中,当孩子们稍不满意时,他们便让步说:“那好,你就自己呆在家里吧!”孩子最初似乎得到了一定的满足,但久而久之,便会有被遗弃的感觉。随便对孩子说“可以”,是冷漠与放纵,而酌情说“不行”,才是真正的关心与爱护。父母表现出的坚定绝不容商量,尽管有时会招致孩子的大哭大闹,甚至叫着说:“我恨你!”但孩子正是在反抗的同时,也意识到父母的尊严和权威。孩子需要有一个对立面,才能分出美与丑。如果让他们漫无目标地挥动小拳头,他们会因 Child psychology point of view, when the child made some unreasonable demands, parents and their accommodation, rather “no” is more influential to him (she). Nowadays, unattended children do not know how many parents go out and wanted to put them in the elderly such as grandparents. When the children were slightly dissatisfied, they concessions said: “Well, you stay at home yourself ”At first, the child seems to be satisfied, but as time passes, there will be a feeling of abandonment. Just say “yes” to the child is indifference and indulgence, and as the saying goes “no”, is the real concern and love. Parents show firm not to discuss, though sometimes it will lead to the child crying, even shouted: “I hate you!” But the child is in the same time resist, but also aware of the dignity and authority of parents. Children need to have an opposite, in order to separate the beauty and ugliness. If they let their aimless fist waving, they will because of