美国密歇根州立大学的研究人员进行的一项研究发现,当人们设想向那些伤害过自己的人报复时,血压会明显上升;想原谅时,血压则显著下降。 心理学家认为,原谅曾伤害过你的人,有助于化解积怨,消除隔阂,特别是会赢得对方(伤害过你的人)的尊重,使你求得心理上的平衡。这种心理平衡,往往会产生快乐感和满足感,对你的身心健康无疑是大有好处的。宽恕并不是人人都具备的仁慈心怀,因为有时的确是很困难的。心理学家提出的以下几点,可能有助你实现宽恕。 不要等着别人来道歉“除非他(她)来道歉,否则 A study by researchers at Michigan State University found that when people envision a retaliation for those who have harmed themselves, their blood pressure rises significantly, and their blood pressure drops significantly when they want to forgive. Psychologists believe that forgiving those who have hurt you helps to defuse grievances and eliminate barriers, and in particular to win the respect of each other (the ones who hurt you), so that you find the psychological balance. This psychological balance often produces feelings of happiness and satisfaction, which are certainly beneficial to your physical and mental health. Forgiveness is not a merciful heart for all because it is sometimes very difficult. The following points made by psychologists may help you achieve forgiveness. Do not wait for someone to apologize. ”Unless he (she) apologizes, otherwise