问:孩子的大姨跟我说,孩子偷拿了她的钱。我知道后非常恼火,想马上问孩子,但是话到嘴边又咽了回去,因为如果我直截了当地问,一定会和孩子发生冲突的。汤安明答:跟孩子谈话一定要有真凭实据,这是重要的谈话前提。但不能把孩子的真实信息作为掌握的证据向孩子摊牌,让孩子当面做出保证,以后不再犯。这样的教育方式当时确实是解决了问题,孩子似乎在一段时间内发生了较大变化,我们可能以为孩子从此变好了,万事 Q: The child’s aunt told me that the child stole her money. I was so annoyed that I wanted to ask the child right away, but then I swallowed it back because if I spoke straightforwardly, I would clash with the child. Tang Anming A: Talk to your children must have real proof, this is an important prerequisite for conversation. However, you can not show your child the true information of the child as a proof of control, so that the child can make a face to face assurance that he will not commit any further crimes. This way of education was really solve the problem, the children seem to have undergone major changes over time, we may think that the child has changed from good to very good, everything