普天下望子成龙的父母无一不希望自己的孩子健康成长、成人成材,然而,真正如愿以偿的人并不太多。来自家庭、学校、社会的抱怨常常集中于“现在的孩子缺少责任感、缺乏自觉性”这一普遍性的问题上。给予孩子全部的爱却很少得到爱的回报;对孩子尽了全部责任却没能使孩子学会负责;为孩子做了能做的一切,不仅没有得到感激,反而是使孩子因习以为常而失去了自己动手的自觉性。家长们的困惑是不难理解的。但以笔者之见,这一问题恰恰表明长期以来我们家庭教育中的一个重大缺陷——忽视培养孩子的自律人格。 All-stargame parents all hope that their children grow up healthily and grow up. However, there are not many people who actually get their wish. Complaints from families, schools, and society often focus on the universality of “the lack of sense of responsibility and lack of awareness in children today.” Giving all the love of the child but rarely receiving the return of love; doing all the responsibility for the child failed to make the child learn to be responsible; doing what the child can do is not only not appreciated, but rather the child is lost because of the habit Do it yourself consciously. Puzzled parents is not hard to understand. However, in my opinion, this question precisely shows a major flaw in our family education over a long period of time - ignoring the cultivation of children’s self-discipline personality.