领导想改变下属,父母想改变孩子,夫妻想互相改变……改变别人是人人都有过的想法,但被人改变也是人们最反感的事情之一。《论语》中有一句话:“我不欲人之加诸我也,吾亦欲无加诸人。”就是说,我们讨厌别人怎样对待自己,就别这样对待别人。同样,不喜欢被人改变,就别试着改变他人。 Leaders want to change subordinates, parents want to change their children, couples want to change one another ... Changing others is an idea that everyone has had, but being changed is one of the most offensive things. There is a saying in the Analects of Confucius: “I do not want to add to others, I also want to add to others.” That is, we hate people how to treat themselves, do not treat others like this. Similarly, do not like to be changed, do not try to change others.