决定我们是否幸福的人,只有我们自己,与别人无关。你对一个人满意,你对一个人喜欢,他有一件事做得挺普通的你也觉得挺好的,他犯了一个错你也说没关系;你对一个人不满意,他做了应该的、他做得很好,你就会当作合格忽略不计,只是合格这没什么好说的,你就应该这样。如果对方有一个没有达到你期待的,那马上就觉得对方像犯了天条一样不可忍受。所以决定我们幸福与否的不在于对方,而在于我们自己。 The people who decide whether we are happy or not are our own and have nothing to do with others. You are satisfied with a person, you like a person, he did one thing very ordinary you feel good, he made a mistake you also said it does not matter; you are not satisfied with a person, he should do , He did well, you will be neglected as a qualified, but qualified nothing to say, you should be like this. If one of the other party did not meet your expectations, it immediately felt like the other party to commit suicide as unbearable. So it is not ourselves, but ourselves, that determine whether we are happy or not.