[实例]孙京是个十分令人喜爱的好孩子,待人有礼貌,学习成绩也很好,他的绘画多次作为对外交流的儿童画出国展览,经常受到老师、家长和邻居的夸奖。家长意识到:在这种环境中,孩子很容易形成自傲心理,出现不思进取或不易与人合作的倾向。为了刺激孩子的进取行为,妈妈几乎每个星期都要设置一些障碍,增加孩子受挫的机会。例如,孙京的绘画好,可是他的钢琴弹得较差,妈妈就利用假日带孙京到一同事家,听同事家孩子弹钢琴;减少对孙京的表扬次数;有时故意找一些问题,批评孙京。 [Example] Sun Jing is a very loving good boy. He is polite and has good academic performance. His paintings have been exhibited in many countries as foreign exchange children’s exhibitions and are often praised by teachers, parents and neighbors. Parents realize that in this environment, children tend to develop pride and tend to be unscrupulous or co-operative. In order to stimulate their children’s aggressive behavior, mothers set up some obstacles every week, increasing their chance of frustration. For example, Sun Jing’s painting is good, but his piano is playing poorly. My mother used the holiday band Sun Jing to go to a colleague’s house to listen to my colleagues’ children and children to play the piano; to reduce the number of compliments on Sun Jing; and sometimes to find some problems, Criticize Sun Jing.