俗话说相夫教子,教子似乎只是母亲的责任,其实,父教和母教的作用并不同,彼此不可替代。一般而言,母亲给予孩子的,主要是衣食住行等具体实用知识,而人格和意志上的影响,更多地来自于父亲。这不仅由于男女在家庭和社会上的分工与地位不同,更是人类长期形成的性别文化上的差异。许多在人生上有所建树的人,回忆起孩提时,总忘不了母亲在厨灶厅房、孤灯烛影下辛勤劳作、循循善诱的身影;而父亲的形象,则往往与风狂雨骤、烈日寒冬的环境,与坚毅刚强、坦诚宽厚等性格特点相联系。总的来说,为父者比起为母者,所施教的在层次上应当高一些,影响也应当深远一些。不过,如今讲实用和享受的风气甚盛,大街小巷所见所闻,皆是化妆扮靓、饮食购物、女红技巧之类的“母性教育”;男人们教育孩子,学而优则仕和当老板大款这一套并不少,至于为人的品格、进取的志向,恐怕他们自己都知之不多,遑论施之孩子?家庭和社会如此,而中小学校也普遍缺少男教师,这种“父教”的缺位,很大程度上弱化了男性文化中积极的一面。没有受到良好“父教”的孩子,长大后要当个合格的父亲母亲,就甚为不易。 As the saying goes the godson, the godson seems to be just the mother’s responsibility, in fact, the role of the parent and the motherhood are different, each irreplaceable. In general, mothers give their children, mainly basic necessities and other practical knowledge, and personality and will influence, more from the father. This is not only due to the different division of labor and status between men and women in the family and society, but also the gender-based cultural differences long-term human beings have formed. Many people who have made a difference in their lives, remembering their childhood hours, can not forget their mothers’ hardworking in kitchens and living rooms and solitary candles. The images of their fathers are often associated with the ups and downs of the wind, Environment, and perseverance and strong, frank and generous personality characteristics associated. In general, the father should be at a higher level than the mother, and the impact should be far-reaching. However, nowadays practical and enjoyable atmosphere is very Sheng, the streets seen and heard are all make-up, food shopping, women’s skills such as “maternal education”; men educate their children, learning and excellent As a result, there are not many sets of official and boss moguls. As for the character and enterprising ambitions of the people, I am afraid that they do not know much about themselves. On the part of children and families, families and societies, and the lack of male teachers in primary and secondary schools, This lack of “parental” greatly weakens the positive side of male culture. It is not easy to be a qualified father and mother without a well-established “fathers” child.