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父母在教育子女的时候,常常会遇到子女的回嘴、反驳、顶擅等。面对这种争辩,做父母的该怎么处置呢?明智的做法是给子女争辩的权利,认真地听取争辩。这样做,主要的好处有两个:其一,从孩子的争辩中,做父母的可以了解其发生某种错误行为的背景、条件以及心理动机等,针对性地进行有成效的教育;其二,让孩子争辩,也就为做父母的树了面镜子,父母通过听取子女的争辩检验自己的教育方法是否得当,说的是否在理,发现不妥之处可以及时调整。孔子就此说过:“父亲有敢于争辩的儿子,行为就不会无礼。”
When parents educate their children, they often encounter their children’s replies, retort, top and so on. In the face of this argument, what should parents do? It is wise to give their children the right to argue and listen carefully to arguments. The main benefits of doing so are twofold. First, from the child’s argument, parents can learn about the background, conditions and psychological motivations of some wrongdoing in their children and conduct targeted and effective education. , Let the children argue, but also a mirror for the tree of parents, parents by listening to their children’s arguments to test their education methods are appropriate, that is rational, found that inappropriate place can be adjusted in time. In this regard, Confucius said: “The father has a son who dared to argue, the behavior will not rude. ”