(一)个性发展上的矛盾:传统观念中,有一条评价个人品质的重要标准是听话,孩子只要听话就是好孩子,这几乎成为几千年来中国人的“集体无意识”。而现代中国,人们已开始重视自我的发展。一方面,希望孩子听话,另一方面,又鼓励他们自我的发展,甚至放纵和溺爱,导致自我中心的出现,这常使幼儿陷入一种矛盾之中,引起心理的失衡。并表现出冷淡、自卑、执拗、吝啬或孤僻、 (A) the contradictions of personality development: the traditional concept, there is an important criterion for evaluating personal qualities is obedient, as long as children obey the child is good, which has almost become the Chinese for several thousands of years of “collective unconscious.” In modern China, people have begun to value self-development. On the one hand, children are expected to be obedient. On the other hand, they encourage their self-development and even indulgence and indulgence. This leads to the emergence of self-centeredness, which often causes young children to fall into a contradiction and cause psychological imbalance. And showed a cold, low self-esteem, stubborn, miserly or withdrawn,