在班里,我的成绩一直很好,而且还是班干部。我一直对同学要求严格,同学却常常在背后说我的坏话,选“三好生”时也不选我。如果对他们亲切一点吧,他们肯定会觉得我好欺负,以后就不会听我的了。你说我该怎么做才好呢? In class, my grades have been very good, but also class cadres. I have always been demanding students, but my classmates are often behind the bad things I said, the election “San Haosheng ” do not choose me. If you are kind to them, they will surely feel that I'm so bullied and will not listen to me later. You say what should I do?