先学做人,后学做事。千百年来,无数家长、老师这样教育孩子。可是怎样学做人,又免不了搞“二元制”。大凡书本都是教人君子之道,强调为人要正直。而私底下,家长们又觉得社会复杂,怕孩子单纯吃亏,难免又要传授一些圆滑应变之术。于是长大成人之后,我们中大多数人会在君子之道、小人之术间徘徊,难免活得很累。 Learn first, after school work. For thousands of years, countless parents and teachers have educated their children in this way. But how to learn how to behave, but also inevitably engage in “dual system.” Most books teach the gentleman’s way, emphasizing integrity. Privately, parents feel that the society is complicated and afraid of losing children. It is inevitable that they should also impart some tactics of smooth adaptation. So after growing up, most of us will hover between the gentleman’s path, the villain’s surgery, inevitably live very tired.