我们生活在一个复杂的关系网络中,我们周围被各种“关系”包围。在这“关系”的背后,我们经历着不同的“互惠”方式。本文将从自己的见闻入手,分析“礼物”在“互惠”过程所体现的人与人“关系”的重要性。从社会交换理论分析人与人在情感视域下是怎么权衡利益关系达到自己的需求与目标。而在当今社会因为“礼物”和“特殊关系”造成的社会秩序与机制的紊乱以及“互赠礼物”的互惠行为背后隐藏着怎样的驱动力,是我们文化传承中要思考的重要问题。 We live in a complex network of relationships surrounded by a variety of “relationships.” Behind this “relationship” we are experiencing different “reciprocal” ways. This article will start from its own knowledge and analyze the importance of “gift” in the process of “reciprocity ”. From the theory of social exchange, it is analyzed how the human beings balance their interest relations to meet their own needs and goals from the perspective of emotion. However, in today’s society because of “gift ” and “special relationship ” caused by the disorder of social order and mechanism and “reciprocal gift ” What is hidden behind the reciprocity of the driving force is our cultural heritage The important question of thinking.