父母对子女的爱是天性。马克思说过:“还有什么比父母心中蕴藏着的感情更神圣的呢?父母的心,是最仁慈的法官,最贴心的朋友,是爱的大阳。”可是,不少父母的心,往往只能是“爱的大阳”,却成不了“仁慈的法官”,使神圣的感情变成了溺爱。由于溺爱,造成了孩子的过分依赖,本来只要稍微付出一点努力就能做到的事,也不愿做。孩子缺乏克服困难的意志,也没有起码的劳动习惯。依赖已成为一代儿童的致命弱点。溺爱的反面是对孩子施行专制教育。专制型的家长信奉“棍棒出孝子”的古训, Parents love their children is nature. Marx said: “What is more sacred than the feelings of parents ’hearts? The heart of parents, the most benevolent judge, the most intimate friend, is the sunshine of love.” However, many parents’ hearts, Often it can only be “the sunshine of love,” but it can not become a “merciful judge,” turning sacred feelings into spoiled children. Due to spoiled, resulting in children’s over-reliance, had only done with a little effort can do, do not want to do. Children lack the will to overcome difficulties, there is no minimum labor habits. Dependence has become the fatal weakness of children of the generation. The opposite of spoiled child education. Autocratic parents believe in “stick out of a child” of the old school,