现在孩子的父母,大多数是“文革”中成长或出生的。他们与子女在成长背景、生活经历和社会条件上存在着巨大的反差,这就给家庭教育带来了一系列新的课题。从父母这方面,不少人心灵深处至今还保留着的自恋情结,有意无意地掩饰甚至美化自己这一代人的缺陷,并以此来影响对子女的教育。面对孩子的不满、抵触情绪常又表现“束手无策”。因此,走出自恋情绪,是这一代父母面对现实,实施科学教育必要的一步。 Now most of the children’s parents are grown or born in “Cultural Revolution”. There is a tremendous contrast between their children and their children in terms of their background, life experience and social conditions. This has brought a series of new topics to family education. From their parents’ point of view, many people still maintain the narcissistic complexion deep in their heart and consciously or unconsciously cover up or even beautify the shortcomings of their own generation and thereby influence the education of their children. In the face of child dissatisfaction, resistance often show “helpless.” Therefore, going out of a narcissistic mood is a necessary step for parents of this generation to face the reality and carry out scientific education.