小时候,我们体会到有哪些行为或任务若做得棒的话,就会被接纳或认同。因此,我们的自我认同就与好的特质或角色如善良、温驯、听话等联结。反而藏在里边的自私、残忍、叛逆等坏特质,则被视为阻碍我们成长的小恶魔。我们都很害怕去碰触藏在内心深处的黑暗面,不断地想尽法子镇压这 When we were small, we realized that if there were any behaviors or tasks that were done well, they would be accepted or accepted. Therefore, our self-identity is associated with good traits or roles such as kindness, gentleness, and obedience. Instead, the bad qualities of selfishness, cruelty, and treason that are hidden inside are seen as impediments to our growth. We are all very scared to touch the dark side that is hidden in our hearts and constantly try to suppress it.